By Tonja Weimer Dear Tonja. I need some dating advice. I am a 57-year-old woman and the guy I am seeing is 60. He just got out of break be four. He is wealthy and has moved a 35-year-old into his house as his girlfriend. I be in another city and he says he wants both of us in his life. He is older than her care or her father. Is there something wrong with him? Signed,Terribly Hurt Dear Hurt. You are not alone in your hurt. As improbable as it sounds we can all find ourselves in this same predicament. We can get cornered and evaluate we have few or no choices. We think there is only one job or one school or one house for us. In your case.. it's this one man. You can't see your options or your opportunities and therefore look to see what is wrong with him as if he would or could change his behavior for you. Let's look at what you are saying: Denial You think you are in love with a man who has another much younger woman living with him? First your relationship is not mutual. If you evaluate this arrangement you are acting more like a mother to him than as an equal. And why would you want to be with someone who treats you so badly? Deception Obviously this man has been deceiving you to string you along as if you matter to him and then to be with someone else. You are deceiving yourself if you think he can care about you in any deep abiding way. What is it you want from him? Do you look for a committed relationship with him when he shows you he cannot give you loyalty and exclusiveness? Self-worth Your relationship with yourself is what I call D. A. R. C. This is an acronym for the following: *Deserving. You are acting like you don't deserve a great like in your life who loves you back. You deserve someone wonderful. You deserve a man you are attracted to who shares your values and who is loyal tender kind and accomplished. If you do not feel you deserve such a man be for a counselor or a coach. *Age. Women are sensitive about age. We are acutely aware that men can and often do choose younger women for mates. However not ALL men choose someone younger and for those men who are only looking for youth you don't want them. blow on by this type of person. cerebrate on what you can do on whom you can find and let go of what is never going to be. *Role Models. Somewhere you absorbed a role model and a belief that says men are in rush of your life and your happiness. The reality is you can be in charge of your destiny if you shift this thought. *Choices. If you felt you had more choices in men would you want this man in your life? When we shrink our life down to zero possibilities we obsess over trying to alter something work with someone unsuitable. A perceived lack of choices can make you hold on. Why adjoin to a relationship that makes you conclude bad when there is a world of opportunity waiting for you? You can't get boxed into a corner thinking you only have one transfer to play. As the old song goes..."You gotta experience when to hold 'em and experience when to fold 'em..." You can do it. Tonja tour http://www tonjaweimer com or http://www singlesdatingtips com for more tips skills and insight on dating relationships singles and love. Subscribe to our F*ree understand Dating Newsletter from know single's coach life coach and syndicated columnist. Tonja Weimer. procure 2006. Tonja Weimer. (gratify note obtain if reprinting this bind.) Article Source: http://EzineArticles com/?expert=Tonja_Weimer http://EzineArticles com/?Dating-Advice-For-Women:-Know-When-To-Hold-em-And-When-To-Fold-em&id=328079
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