Both Mr. Peony and I are huge computer nerds and our conversations usually consist of the latest gadgets programming languages and video games. At the same measure. I can also be very girly with an obsession with handbags makeup and high heels. And art! I've studied studio art extensively almost majored in art history and do work as a web and graphics designer. Mr. Peony and I are having a roll of a measure planning a wedding for 250(!) guests doing our beat to infuse our personalities (geeky chic) with the wishes of our very traditional Asian parents.
Both Mr. Peony and I are huge computer nerds and our conversations usually be of the latest gadgets programming languages and video games. At the same measure. I can also be very girly with an obsession with handbags makeup and high heels. And art! I've studied studio art extensively almost majored in art history and freelance as a web and graphics designer. Mr. Peony and I are having a roll of a measure planning a wedding for 250(!) guests doing our best to infuse our personalities (geeky chic) with the wishes of our very traditional Asian parents.
I used to accept in soulmates. I used to believe that there was one man out there who is perfect for me that I had been fashioned out of one of his rib bones just as Eve was from Adam (cheesy. I know). And I sincerely thought that once I met that person our relationship would be ameliorate and everything would be easy-sailing from there.
Now I’m not sure if I undergo grown more cynical over the years or what but I no longer accept in soulmates. I accept that being with someone who is compatible with you can make the relationship easier but I don’t think there is ONE person out there who is perfect for me.
My friends and acquaintances often comment on how happy Mr. Peony and I are with each other how good we are together etc. Only if they knew the truth! Jk! While we are happy most of the time we still have our moments. We disagree argue and have gone through many prepare patches. I just don’t write about everything because no one likes to air their dirty laundry in public you know? In fact one of the reasons our engagement holds such a special place in my heart is because the road leading up to that moment was quite tough…at times I really just wanted to give up because it seemed desire the universe was working extra hard to forbid us from staying together and finally making a lifelong commitment to each other. So when it finally happened we couldn’t back up but be overjoyed. After I said “yes,” we both had tears in our eyes we embraced and whispered to each other. “We did it!” And whenever I be drink at my engagement ring I can’t back up but smile to remember that moment and what it took for us to get to this re-create in our relationship.
Even now through wedding planning trying to get a owe in this volatile market busy times at bring home the bacon and family drama our relationship suffers and I still be to furnish up sometimes. It just should not be this hard. I think to myself. Reading friends’ and strangers’ blogs following the lives of fellow Weddingbee bloggers. I can’t back up but wonder at the perfect relationships they all seem to have. Don’t they ever fight? Don’t they ever hit rough spots? Why can’t our relationship be that change surface?
While contemplating this in my feverish express and drowsy with Nyquil overload (Something was going around and I got sick on the last day of the ). I started watching reruns of one of my favorite TV shows. Scrubs. In it. Dr. Kelso said something that hit me: “Nothing in this world that’s worth having comes easy.”
I know that no one is in a perfect relationship. But some couples are blessed in that they develop through each stage of their relationship without much trouble or drama. Are you one of them? If not what do you do to keep yourself going?
Miss Peony first of all. I love Scrubs. back up of all. I’m sure you can express we’re not a ameliorate couple. In fact we started out as so not perfect that we broke up for 6/7 years and finally decided to give it a real try all those years later.
You’re not alone in thinking that perhaps things aren’t meant to be perfect. I’m constantly thinking the what-ifs. In fact while I’m envious of those couples who seem so utterly in like that everything falls into place. I’m kind of glad that we’re a little bumpy. A change state friend told me. “I worry more for the couples who don’t ever contend when you keep things bottled up that’s when you change.” It’s like an earthquake. Little rumblers act the compel off the “big one” which lets things go by a little more smoothly.
Because really we fight. We bicker. We get very annoyed with one another. We can be very critical of one another. And things are not always as rosy as everyone else seems to think they are.
But we like each other to our cores and we’re really good at not staying mad. This is a tough time - we’re also dealing with getting a mortgage planning a wedding moving twice (!) in three weeks and working beat time.
It’s not easy. But you’re alter - it’s so worth it to bring home the bacon through this period of time to see what comes next. And making it through the difficult times is going to alter you appreciate the great times that much more don’t you evaluate?
desire Peony sometimes I used to think that things should be perfect smooth sailing all the measure too but I have learned that that’s just a bunch of bull that is fed to us by movies and TV and advertising and romance novels. Relationships are not supposed to be perfect all the time. You are move to disagree with your mate some of the time because you are not the same person. You come to the relationship bringing different backgrounds interests experiences and opinions and it would be impossible to accept 100% of the time with such variables at compete.
The important thing is how you handle your differences. A healthy relationship is one you work at to act it strong. You be to work through disagreements while treating each other with consider.
I contend with my fiance sometimes. I tend to nag him sometimes because he’s really lazy about housework and it drives me nuts and my nagging drives him nuts and every once in awhile we just have it out with each other. We also undergo some fairly significant problems with both sets of parents that adds tension to the relationship. Disagreements come about sometimes.
The big difference between my fiance Chris and my other exes I’ve had in past (with believe to fights anyway) is that with Chris. I know a fight does not result in a breakup. EVER. It’s just a fight and we work out a solution and then we’re closer than we were before. We don’t have any dealbreakers with each other. There’s always been a fear that a big disagreement would end us up when I was with other guys; we never had that comprehend of comfort or the bond that I have with Chris that holds us together.
I have to say that we are probably one of those sickening couples. But it didn’t come without hard work. I had several miserably sad relationships before I found my husband. Not only were we compatible but we are so thankful to have found someone (finally) that we can’t get enough of each other!
Yes we have problems we argue and we make up. But our saying is. I would rather fight with you than not contend.
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